GIFTS (Love language 2)

A gift is a tangible object that says, “I was thinking about you. I wanted you to have this. I love you.” Anthropologists have never discovered a culture where gift giving is not an expression of love. Giving gift is one of the fundamental universal languages of love
Some gifts last only for a few hours. Many single mom will remember this gift a dandelion picked from the yard and given to her by her child. The gift was quickly gone, but the memory has lingered for years. . The important thing is not the gift, but the emotional love that was communicated by the gift. The right gift is any token, big or small, which speaks that emotional love
The wrong meaning
The Greek word from which we get our English words gift is “charis”, which means “grace,” or an underserved gift. A gift by its very nature is not payment for services rendered. When a dating partner says “I will give… if you will….” The partner is not offering a gift nor is he expressing love. The person is simply striking a deal. A gift is given without strings attached or it ceases to be a gift
A gift is not a gift when it is given to smooth ruffled feathers. Some people think that giving a gift will offset the harsh words they have spoken. Some sons were instructed by their fathers,” when you’ve done wrong, always get her flowers. Flowers cover multitude of sins.” After a while. However, girls receiving the flowers want to throw them in the guy’s face. A gift is a gift only when given as a genuine expression of love, not as an effort to cover over past failures
Gift are visual symbol s of love. During most wedding ceremonies the bride and groom give and receive rings. The person performing the ceremony says, “These rings are outward and visible signs of an inward and spiritual bond which unite your two hearts in love that has no end.”
The gift can be any size, shape, color, or price. It may be purchase, found, or made. To the individual whose primary love language is receiving gifts, the cost of the gift will matter little. If you can afford it, you can purchase a beautiful card foe a less amount. If you cannot, you can make one free. Get a paper, fold it in the middle, take scissors and cut out a heart, write “I love you,” and sign your name. Gift need not be expensive
Learn the person’s interests
When do you begin? Listen to the person you care about. Pick up on their interest
Be Sensitive to the Nature of Some Gifts
In a dating relationship, you must also be sensitive to the way your partner responds to gifts. Because of their cost or perceived meaning, certain type of gift may not be readily accepted by the one you love.

GIFTS AND MONEY
If you are to become an effective giver, you may have to change your attitude about money. Each of us has an individualized perception of the purpose of money and we have various emotion associated with spending it. If you have a spending orientation, you will feel good about yourself when you are spending money. If you have a saving and investing perspective, you will feel good about yourself when you are saving money or investing it wisely.
Suppose you are saver. You will resist the idea of spending money as an expression of love. I don’t purchase things for myself. Why should I purchase things for others? But that attitude fails to understand the truth- that you are purchasing things for yourself. By saving and investing money you are purchasing self-worth and emotional security. You are caring for your own emotional needs in the way you handle money. If you discover that someone you care about has the primary love language of receiving gift, then perhaps you will understand that purchasing and giving gift to him or her is the best investment you can make. You’re investing in your relationship and filling the other person‘s emotional love tank