Then there is dialect of praise, recognizing someone’s accomplishment. To a greater or lesser degree, all of us are achievers. WE set ourselves to accomplish things. When we accomplish them we like to be recognized. In personal relationship words of praise meet the need for recognition
Occasionally we all need someone to pat us on the shoulder and say, “Wow, that’s great. I like that. You did a great job. “Think of what would happen in the world if all of us started praising each other for accomplishments rather than pointing out what was wrong.
The singles’ world is filled with people who are worthy of praise. The single mom who works to support her family and to educate her children deserves the highest accolades. The person who works through the pain of divorce and comes out with a positive attitude believing in the future deserves praise. The single who wrestles with a dreaded diseases and maintain a positive attitude and uses his or her energies in positive pursuit is worthy of a praises team. The never married single who invest time And energy in helping underprivileged children accomplish educational goals deserves words of praise. All around us there are people who daily expend energy for the benefit of others. These people need to hear words of praise.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
SPEAKING THE DIALECTS OF AFFIRMING WORDS
Words OF Encouragement
Affirming words is one of the five basic love languages. Within that languages, however, there are many dialects. Lets focus primary on words of appreciation, expressing sincere gratitude for some act of service rendered. But there are also words of encouragement. The words encourage means “to inspire courage.” All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. We lack courage and that lack of courage can hinders us from accomplishing the positive things we would like to do
The latent potential within a work colleague or your roommate may await encouraging words. Perhaps someone in your circle of friendship has expressed an interest in learning to be an actor or actress. If it appears to you that they have potentials (and almost all of us do), Why not encourage them to explore their desire. Tell them that you can “ see them doing that.” If they are inexperienced, encourage them to attend a class at a local college. If they have had some experienced, encourage to audition for local “little theatre.” Many noble pursuits wait the encouragement of a friend.A friend says to you “I’ve got to lose weight.” What is your responds? Will you “brush it off” by saying, All of us need to lose weight”? Will you discourage your friend by saying, “That’s one of the hardest things in the world to do” or Even if you lose weight you’ll probably put it back on again”? Or will give the person encouraging words, such as “if you decide to do it, I know you will succeed because you are the kind of person who accomplishes goals”?
Affirming words is one of the five basic love languages. Within that languages, however, there are many dialects. Lets focus primary on words of appreciation, expressing sincere gratitude for some act of service rendered. But there are also words of encouragement. The words encourage means “to inspire courage.” All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. We lack courage and that lack of courage can hinders us from accomplishing the positive things we would like to do
The latent potential within a work colleague or your roommate may await encouraging words. Perhaps someone in your circle of friendship has expressed an interest in learning to be an actor or actress. If it appears to you that they have potentials (and almost all of us do), Why not encourage them to explore their desire. Tell them that you can “ see them doing that.” If they are inexperienced, encourage them to attend a class at a local college. If they have had some experienced, encourage to audition for local “little theatre.” Many noble pursuits wait the encouragement of a friend.A friend says to you “I’ve got to lose weight.” What is your responds? Will you “brush it off” by saying, All of us need to lose weight”? Will you discourage your friend by saying, “That’s one of the hardest things in the world to do” or Even if you lose weight you’ll probably put it back on again”? Or will give the person encouraging words, such as “if you decide to do it, I know you will succeed because you are the kind of person who accomplishes goals”?
Monday, October 19, 2009
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION (Love Language 1)
PSYCHOLINGUISTICS: THE STUDY OF THE EFFECT of language on personality. It’s a fancy word, but the truth is all of us have been influenced by words we heard through the years. Some single adult grew up in a positive linguistic environment. They heard words that emphasized the pleasant, joyful, and beautiful aspect of life. Others grew up in a linguistic environment that emphasized the negative. Children who grew up in these vastly contrasting environments will hear totally different vocabularies resulting in vastly different personalities and behavior patterns. The ancient he brew proverb did not overstate the impact of words “the tongue has the power of life and death.”
If words holds such power of influence, it is understandable that words of affirmation would be one of the five fundamental languages of love. It will also be obvious that singles who grew up in a negative linguistic environment will have greater difficulty learning to speak words of affirmation. For some, it will mean learning a whole new vocabulary while seeking to delete the negative words that so freely flow from their mouths. It will also involve learning to listen, to the affirming words of others
Let me make it clear from the outset, my desire for single who reads this, is that you will learn both to receive and give love in all five love languages. I am assuming that those who take time to read a book on love desire to better persons, to have better relationships, and reach their potential of leaving a positive impact on the world. It is my sincere belief that learning to speak and understand the five love languages will help you reach that objective.
The good news is that all of these languages can be learned. In this we are focusing on learning to give and receive words of affirmation. For some people this is their primary love language, all of us need to be able to speak it. We all enjoy learning it. How can we best develop this language?
For some singles, this is their native tongue. They grew up in a positive linguistic environment hearing many affirming words from their earliest childhood. It will be relatively easy for them to speak this language because they have been practicing for many years. These are the singles who are known in their social circle as encourages. They are constantly affirming, encouraging, and expressing words of appreciation to others
If words holds such power of influence, it is understandable that words of affirmation would be one of the five fundamental languages of love. It will also be obvious that singles who grew up in a negative linguistic environment will have greater difficulty learning to speak words of affirmation. For some, it will mean learning a whole new vocabulary while seeking to delete the negative words that so freely flow from their mouths. It will also involve learning to listen, to the affirming words of others
Let me make it clear from the outset, my desire for single who reads this, is that you will learn both to receive and give love in all five love languages. I am assuming that those who take time to read a book on love desire to better persons, to have better relationships, and reach their potential of leaving a positive impact on the world. It is my sincere belief that learning to speak and understand the five love languages will help you reach that objective.
The good news is that all of these languages can be learned. In this we are focusing on learning to give and receive words of affirmation. For some people this is their primary love language, all of us need to be able to speak it. We all enjoy learning it. How can we best develop this language?
For some singles, this is their native tongue. They grew up in a positive linguistic environment hearing many affirming words from their earliest childhood. It will be relatively easy for them to speak this language because they have been practicing for many years. These are the singles who are known in their social circle as encourages. They are constantly affirming, encouraging, and expressing words of appreciation to others
Saturday, October 10, 2009
ACTS OF SERVICE (Love Language 3)
SHERRY ENTERED THE WORKFORCE after her husband left her with her four years old daughter. Her computer skills were not as advanced as she would like, they still aren’t, but she is improving. Easing her transition as a single mother in the workplace is a helpful coworker
“Gaye is so nice,” sherry said, “whenever I have a problem with my computer, she’s always available to help me. She is so patient when I am slow to learn, she is the greatest! I don’t know what I can do without her”
Sherry has high positive regard for Gaye because her coworker is speaking sherry’s primary love language: act of service.
Albert Einstein, one of the greatest scientists of all time, is best known for his theory of relatively, which he advanced in 1905 when he was twenty-six. He made many others significant contribution to science. However, in his later years, he said to have removed from has wall the portrait of two scientists, Maxwell and Newton, and replaced them with the portraits of Schweitzer and Gandhi. When he was questioned by his colleagues, he said, “It is time to remove the symbols of science and replace with them with the symbols of service.”
Apparently Einstein had come to realized that love is more powerful than science. One of the fundamental languages of love is act of service. One of the clearest pictures of the essence of the Christian faith is Jesus, its founder, washing the feet of his disciples. In a culture were people wore sandals and walk on dirt streets, it was customary for the servant of the household to wash the feet of guests has they arrive. Jesus, who had instructed his disciple to love one another, gave them an example of how to express that love when he took a basin and a towel and proceeded to wash their feet. After that simple expression of love he encouraged his disciples to follow his example
Earlier in his life Jesus had indicated that in his kingdom those who would become great would be servant. In most societies those who mare great lord it over those who are small, but Jesus said that those who are great would serve others. The apostle Paul summarized that philosophy when he said “serve one another in love.”
In the “Me Generation,” the idea of service may seem anachronistic, but the life of service to others has always been recognized as a life worthy of emulation. In every vocation, those who truly excel are those who has genuine desire to serve others. The most notable physicians view their vocation as a calling to serve the sick and diseased. Truly great political leaders see themselves as “Public Servants.” The greatest of all educators see student as individual and gain their greatest rewards from seeing student reach their potential in developing their talents and interests. Service to others is the highest pinnacle man ever scales
“Gaye is so nice,” sherry said, “whenever I have a problem with my computer, she’s always available to help me. She is so patient when I am slow to learn, she is the greatest! I don’t know what I can do without her”
Sherry has high positive regard for Gaye because her coworker is speaking sherry’s primary love language: act of service.
Albert Einstein, one of the greatest scientists of all time, is best known for his theory of relatively, which he advanced in 1905 when he was twenty-six. He made many others significant contribution to science. However, in his later years, he said to have removed from has wall the portrait of two scientists, Maxwell and Newton, and replaced them with the portraits of Schweitzer and Gandhi. When he was questioned by his colleagues, he said, “It is time to remove the symbols of science and replace with them with the symbols of service.”
Apparently Einstein had come to realized that love is more powerful than science. One of the fundamental languages of love is act of service. One of the clearest pictures of the essence of the Christian faith is Jesus, its founder, washing the feet of his disciples. In a culture were people wore sandals and walk on dirt streets, it was customary for the servant of the household to wash the feet of guests has they arrive. Jesus, who had instructed his disciple to love one another, gave them an example of how to express that love when he took a basin and a towel and proceeded to wash their feet. After that simple expression of love he encouraged his disciples to follow his example
Earlier in his life Jesus had indicated that in his kingdom those who would become great would be servant. In most societies those who mare great lord it over those who are small, but Jesus said that those who are great would serve others. The apostle Paul summarized that philosophy when he said “serve one another in love.”
In the “Me Generation,” the idea of service may seem anachronistic, but the life of service to others has always been recognized as a life worthy of emulation. In every vocation, those who truly excel are those who has genuine desire to serve others. The most notable physicians view their vocation as a calling to serve the sick and diseased. Truly great political leaders see themselves as “Public Servants.” The greatest of all educators see student as individual and gain their greatest rewards from seeing student reach their potential in developing their talents and interests. Service to others is the highest pinnacle man ever scales
Thursday, October 8, 2009
FIVE LANGUAGES FOR ALL RELATIONSHIP
The five love languages apply in all human relationships. Some single adult do not feel loved by their parent, not because their parent did not love them, but because the parent never learned to speak the child’s primary love language. Many single have been unsuccessful in their vocational ambitions, not because they lack skills to perform their job, but because they t5hey have never learned how to express appreciation to those who work for with them and for them. Consequently, relationships become strained, and productivity is hampered, often leading them to seek another job or being asked to seek another job. Still others are frustrated by long-term relationships in which they or their friends feels unloved or unappreciated and struggle to better understand each other.
Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive it is a key to enhancing all human relationships. I can assure you that if you read the following article and apply the principle of five love languages, you will become more effective in all of your relationships. The principles are the same truth I have shared with hundred of people. I have every reason to believe the principles will be as effective for you as they have been for other.
are the five love languages for single adults and married
· Words of Affirmation
· Gifts
· Acts of Services
· Quality Time
· Physical Touch
So let’s begins by looking at love languages number one.
Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive it is a key to enhancing all human relationships. I can assure you that if you read the following article and apply the principle of five love languages, you will become more effective in all of your relationships. The principles are the same truth I have shared with hundred of people. I have every reason to believe the principles will be as effective for you as they have been for other.
are the five love languages for single adults and married
· Words of Affirmation
· Gifts
· Acts of Services
· Quality Time
· Physical Touch
So let’s begins by looking at love languages number one.
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